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I m not a rolemodel

 

I’m not a therapist. The thoughts and tips I share are based on what has helped me Over the years, I’ve done a lot of therapy and nervous system work. So this is not a quick fix, and this blog is not meant to replace professional help. It’s simply my truth—shared with love, not authority. I wrote while healing from things I am and have experienced, so all advice comes from different levels of awareness.

The wrong assumption

“But… you’re a woman—so you’re a minority, right?” And maybe, just from the title, you’ve already decided: “Ugh, this must be one of those girls. A pick-me. Someone who excuses bad male behavior. Someone who just wants to be liked by them.” And yes—girls like that exist. But wait a second. This isn’t that. This isn’t who I am. What if I told you that both sides benefit from this? But I’ll let you judge that for yourself.

I still don’t understand why we want strangers to know our most vulnerable truths. Why do we give people the power to build a façade? Some will use that information to get what they want—not your soul, not your mind—just your body. Or you might simply become a fuel for people’s prejudices. That kind of access should only go to those who’ve earned it. People who have learned how to listen, how to regulate themselves, how to protect. Not just anyone who happens to scroll past your story.

 

Think about it: would you tell a complete stranger your deepest shame? If the answer is no—then why do we tell it to the whole world? Ask yourself: is your identity based on your personal story? Or on the awareness of how you’re expected to perform right now?

Experiment

Here’s a small experiment: in the coming weeks, don’t talk about sexism—neither pro nor anti—when you meet a man for the first time. Just set boundaries. See what happens. Does your life get better or worse? (I need to follow this advice myself, too.)

 

One day I saw a flyer. And I saw only stories of women—women who had suffered domestic violence. It hit me: what about the men? Why aren’t both genders highlighted?

 

And then there’s another layer: discrimination of mind and perspective. I will never stop experiencing that I am a woman—someone who stands up for animals overlooked by the system and who needs help from the government. So even though my experience is valid, it’s the way I handle it that gives me strength.

 

Let me explain. Sometimes I get comments about the way I eat. And I can do two things: make a statement—or make fun of it and shift their prejudices toward reality. Sometimes I let them feel foolish. Sometimes I don’t. It took me a long time to master this skill.

 

And men—if you can find humor in things, it’s fun. But you have to let go of the need to change people, to be heard, or to stand up for others. Those belief systems will absolutely make you miserable. But hey—if you want to be miserable, be my guest.

 

I’m still a little guilty of pushing my feelings aside, and out of reflex, I talk like a carnivore when I can’t handle animal products. So I don’t know if that’s a good thing. But okay—honestly, I’ve broken this rule a bit myself, so from now on I’ll try to follow it.