My Awakening: Awareness Around Men
Awareness around men is a slippery slope —
you never know which door you’re opening when you start caring about them.
Sometimes, you get to see their true nature.
But it depends:
How aware are you?
How attached are you to the person?
And — do you even want to see it?
That’s the tricky part.
The Cost of Being Aware
If you’re not also a little “woman-aware,” you might miss what’s right in front of you.
My first awakening came through dating.
I was always taught to protect myself — which is good.
But at some point, I started think: What about his boundaries?
I didn’t realize that this kind of awareness could be used against you.
Over time, I also became more aware of what men go through.
The Unacknowledged Pain
Some struggles and vulnerabilities of men are rarely discussed or acknowledged.
And when only one gender’s pain is recognized — like that of women — men’s experiences can be misunderstood or dismissed.
Being aware of men — their boundaries, their needs, their biases — helped me navigate relationships more safely and thoughtfully.
Controversial thoughts
I still don’t understand why we want strangers to know our most sensitive experiences with sexism.
Why do we give people the power to judge, dismiss, or exploit our pain?
Some will use that information to get what they want — not your soul, not your mind — just your body.
Or you simply become an enabler of people’s biases.
That kind of access should only go to people who have earned it.
People who have learned how to listen, how to respect boundaries, how to understand gendered experiences.
Not whoever happens to scroll past your story.
Experiment
Think about it: would you tell a complete stranger about your experiences with harassment, discrimination, or sexism?
If the answer is no — then why do we share it with the world?
Ask yourself: is your identity based on your personal story, or on the expectation to display awareness of sexism?
Here’s a small experiment: over the next few weeks, notice how much you talk about sexism — not to fight, not to defend — just observe when, where, and with whom you share.
See what happens. Do people respect your boundaries more? Does your energy feel protected?
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